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The Twelfth: Divorce: Know that it is permissible but it is the most disliked of the
permitted things in the sight of Allah, the Almighty. It is only permissible in order
to avoid any harm or falsehood. Allah, the Almighty has said: “…Then, if they
obey you, do not look for any way against them. …” (Koran 4 verse 34) The
husband must observe four conditions in divorce; first that he divorces her while
she is in a state of purity; second that it is confined to one divorce and not to
divorce three times at once, because one divorce after the prescribed period of
waiting, can permit him to return his wife to him during that period, and he can
renew the marriage after the prescribed period.
Third, he should be kind and gentle and appreciate the circumstances during the
divorce without being violent or oppressive, because that might make her feel
what she would miss upon separation, and they might be guided to reconcile.
Fourth, he should not expose her secrets whether in divorce or during the
marriage. As it was narrated regarding exposing the women‟s secrets, that it is a
permitted things in the sight of Allah, the Almighty. It is only permissible in order
to avoid any harm or falsehood. Allah, the Almighty has said: “…Then, if they
obey you, do not look for any way against them. …” (Koran 4 verse 34) The
husband must observe four conditions in divorce; first that he divorces her while
she is in a state of purity; second that it is confined to one divorce and not to
divorce three times at once, because one divorce after the prescribed period of
waiting, can permit him to return his wife to him during that period, and he can
renew the marriage after the prescribed period.
Third, he should be kind and gentle and appreciate the circumstances during the
divorce without being violent or oppressive, because that might make her feel
what she would miss upon separation, and they might be guided to reconcile.
Fourth, he should not expose her secrets whether in divorce or during the
marriage. As it was narrated regarding exposing the women‟s secrets, that it is a