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married to a man who had the ugliest face, so I asked her: “O you, how did you
accept to marry someone like him?” She said: “Hold your tongue, you have
uttered a wrong thing, he may be best in what is between himself and his creator,
so He made me a reward for him, or it may be that I am the worst in what is
between myself and my creator, so He made him my punishment.”
And from the ethics of the woman is that she should adhere to righteousness,
and be sad in the absence of her husband, and to return to play and happiness
and be the cause of enjoyment when he is present.
And what is due upon her of the rights of marriage is that if her husband dies she
should not be very grieved for more than four months and ten. And she should
refrain from beautifying herself during this period.
Of her ethics is that she should perform every duty in the house that she can do.
It was narrated that Asma‟s bint Abu Bakr Sadiq (may Allah be pleased with
them) said: “Al Zubair married me and he does not have land or wealth and owns
nothings except his horse and his baggage camel, so I was feeding his horse
and fetching the supplies and brushing it, and I used to pound the date stones to
feed the camel and water it and make the water skins, and I used to prepare the
dough and carry on my head the date stones for long distances until Abu Bakr
sent a servant for me, so she looked after the horse and I felt as if I was set free.
accept to marry someone like him?” She said: “Hold your tongue, you have
uttered a wrong thing, he may be best in what is between himself and his creator,
so He made me a reward for him, or it may be that I am the worst in what is
between myself and my creator, so He made him my punishment.”
And from the ethics of the woman is that she should adhere to righteousness,
and be sad in the absence of her husband, and to return to play and happiness
and be the cause of enjoyment when he is present.
And what is due upon her of the rights of marriage is that if her husband dies she
should not be very grieved for more than four months and ten. And she should
refrain from beautifying herself during this period.
Of her ethics is that she should perform every duty in the house that she can do.
It was narrated that Asma‟s bint Abu Bakr Sadiq (may Allah be pleased with
them) said: “Al Zubair married me and he does not have land or wealth and owns
nothings except his horse and his baggage camel, so I was feeding his horse
and fetching the supplies and brushing it, and I used to pound the date stones to
feed the camel and water it and make the water skins, and I used to prepare the
dough and carry on my head the date stones for long distances until Abu Bakr
sent a servant for me, so she looked after the horse and I felt as if I was set free.