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The Second: Dealing with wives in a good manner and tolerating their harm.
Extend mercy towards them, Allah, the Almighty said: “…Live with them
honorably. ” (Koran Ch. 4 verse 19) and Allah, the Almighty also said regarding
the importance of women‟s rights: “…and they have taken from you a strong
covenant!” (Koran 4 verse 21). The last thing, which the Prophet, praise and
peace be upon him, urged upon the Muslims concerned three matters, he spoke
of these repeatedly until his voice was tired: “Prayer and what your right hand
possesses, do not compel them to anything they cannot do. Fear Allah in your
women! Treat your women well and be kind to them, for they are your partners
and committed helpers, remember that you have taken them as your wives and
enjoyed their flesh only under the trust of Allah and with His permission.”
The Third: As well as tolerating their harm you should joke, exchange
pleasantries and be lighthearted with them, because being lighthearted makes
their hears feel better, the Prophet, praise and peace be upon him, used to joke
with his wives and deal with them according to their mentality, he used to work
with them in their houses, to the point that he was seen running a race with
Ayesha, may Allah be pleased with her, , which sometimes she won and
Extend mercy towards them, Allah, the Almighty said: “…Live with them
honorably. ” (Koran Ch. 4 verse 19) and Allah, the Almighty also said regarding
the importance of women‟s rights: “…and they have taken from you a strong
covenant!” (Koran 4 verse 21). The last thing, which the Prophet, praise and
peace be upon him, urged upon the Muslims concerned three matters, he spoke
of these repeatedly until his voice was tired: “Prayer and what your right hand
possesses, do not compel them to anything they cannot do. Fear Allah in your
women! Treat your women well and be kind to them, for they are your partners
and committed helpers, remember that you have taken them as your wives and
enjoyed their flesh only under the trust of Allah and with His permission.”
The Third: As well as tolerating their harm you should joke, exchange
pleasantries and be lighthearted with them, because being lighthearted makes
their hears feel better, the Prophet, praise and peace be upon him, used to joke
with his wives and deal with them according to their mentality, he used to work
with them in their houses, to the point that he was seen running a race with
Ayesha, may Allah be pleased with her, , which sometimes she won and