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sometimes he won, and he used to say one day for you and one day for me.
Umar - may Allah be pleased with him -, in spite of his nature being rough, said:
“A man must be like a child with his wife, but if they seek what he has, then they
should find him a man.”
The Fourth: A man should not go too far in his joking and good manner with his
wife and should not always condescend to her whims, because this will spoil her
character and belittle him in her eyes. So he should take a middling course
between the two. The Prophet, praise and peace be upon him, said: “Miserable is
the slave of the wife.” He only said that because if a man obeys his wife‟s every
whim then he is her slave.
The Arab women used to teach their daughters how to test their husbands, and
the women used to say to her daughter: “Test your husband before you dare on
him; pull out the iron tip of his spear, if he says nothing, then try to cut the meat
on his shield, if he says nothing, then break a bone with his sword, if he says
nothing, then put the saddle on his back and ride him, he is only your donkey.”
Umar - may Allah be pleased with him -, in spite of his nature being rough, said:
“A man must be like a child with his wife, but if they seek what he has, then they
should find him a man.”
The Fourth: A man should not go too far in his joking and good manner with his
wife and should not always condescend to her whims, because this will spoil her
character and belittle him in her eyes. So he should take a middling course
between the two. The Prophet, praise and peace be upon him, said: “Miserable is
the slave of the wife.” He only said that because if a man obeys his wife‟s every
whim then he is her slave.
The Arab women used to teach their daughters how to test their husbands, and
the women used to say to her daughter: “Test your husband before you dare on
him; pull out the iron tip of his spear, if he says nothing, then try to cut the meat
on his shield, if he says nothing, then break a bone with his sword, if he says
nothing, then put the saddle on his back and ride him, he is only your donkey.”