CHARITY BEGINS AT HOME H 296 "The upper hand (the donor) is better than the lower (the recipient) and begin with your dependents; and the best charity is from your surplus. Whosoever abstains from asking will be shielded by Allah; and he who does without will be made rich by Allah." R 296 Bukhari with a chain up to Abu Hurairah who related that the Prophet, praise and peace be upon him, said this.
296- وعنه ، عن النَّبيّ صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم ، قَالَ : "اليَدُ العُلْيَا خَيْرٌ مِنَ اليَدِ السُّفْلَى ، وَابْدَأ بِمَنْ تَعُولُ ، وَخَيْرُ الصَّدَقَةِ مَا كَانَ عَنْ ظَهْرِ غِنىً ، وَمَنْ يَسْتَعْفِفْ يُعِفَّهُ اللهُ ، وَمَنْ يَسْتَغْنِ يُغْنِهِ اللهُ" رواه البخاري .